Despite what you may think, I’m not pushing my kids to becoming hardcore gamers by the time they’re six. I think that physical play for them is so very important, and whatever video gaming I allow them to see or interact with is quite limited at this stage.
That said, I don’t push them away from me either when they see daddy logging into LOTRO for a 20 minute session. Sitting on my lap and being involved is important to them, so instead of instructing them to sit still and touch nothing, I figure out small tasks they can do so that they feel like we’re a team. “Shout out ‘spider!’ when you see a spider on screen, honey,” is one of them, and we both go “Squish!” when the spider dies. Or I let my son have full access to the spacebar to make my character or horse jump as many times as he likes (as this doesn’t generally interfere with combat other than to make me look like a loon).
I don’t know what games I’m going to play with them when they’re older (depends on what’s around four to eight years from now), but I definitely want to be a part of their gaming life than separate from it. I love seeing how they overflow with happiness when they’re included, and I like any opportunity to do something together.